Welcome to Part 3 of the 3-part series on shame.
As you may have guessed after reading Parts 1&2–that is, “Shame 101 and 102”–like all emotions, shame just is. I used to think a time would come when shame would literally be eradicated from my life. Sounds funny, I know, but it’s true. I really thought that one day I would wake up, and shame would be gone from my experience forever. Ha! …
Welcome to Part 2 of a 3-part series on shame.
In Part 1, we deconstructed the definition of shame and introduced a 3-step process to help us begin to unload the heavy weight of shame. In Part 2, we explore using creativity to deal with and release shame when it shows up.
Some of you might be saying, “but I don’t have a creative bone in my body, so how am I going to do this?” Don’t worry. Creative expression can take many forms and does not, in any way, require you to be “an artist.” …
Shame 101: 3 Steps to Help You Start Unloading the Heavy Weight of Shame
In October 2018, I wrote and published a blog titled, 10 Tips to Stop Shaming Yourself. It got a lot of hits and a lot of reads. I took that to mean the topic resonated with folks. And when I re-read that blog, I realized it really only scratched the surface of this important topic. So, welcome to the first of a 3-part series on shame. …
Down the Shore
By Laura Sharon
If you stay perfectly still and silent
you can hear their cries of anguish and pain
clamor from deep within the forest in the dark of night.
It is in the tamped down wet leaves of
the path that has been worn — ever so slowly —
by every single step,
every silent heave of the chest that has
come and gone.
Persistent hope fuels the
yearning for freedom,
for a vision of what is possible. …
4 Practices for Healing from Childhood Trauma
By Laura Sharon
Over the past few decades I have been on a healing journey through which I have grown from victim to survivor to thrivor. And, I am here to tell you if I can overcome the trauma I lived through as a child, you can overcome yours. Healing is possible. And, it takes a commitment to do “the work.” This article describes a bit about my story followed by four practices that, when done regularly, can help you heal.
My parents were active alcoholics throughout my childhood. They both had some…
5 Tips for Living with Perfectionism
By Laura Sharon
Meriam Webster defines perfection as “flawlessness,” or having no defects or faults, and perfectionism as “the disposition to regard anything short of perfection as unacceptable.” As the meaning of these words and phrases sinks in, my reaction to this language is visceral. I have a heavy feeling in my belly and my jaw locks down. I mean, seriously, let these words sink in: “the disposition to regard anything short of perfection as unacceptable.” What a set-up, I think, as I begin to contemplate how we got into this mess of thinking…
Grief is deep sorrow. It is deeply emotional. Other words that come to mind are sadness, pain, loss, anguish, suffering, heartache, and despair. Grief also is universal, which means everyone everywhere experiences it. Most of us are not given the skills to deal with grief when it shows up in our lives. In fact, we are taught — in numerous ways — to try to outrun our grief by drinking, taking drugs, staying angry, over spending, overeating, staying busy, and on and on. The message is: whatever you do, don’t feel. And yet the only way to cope with grief…
I started drinking and smoking weed when I was 11, and from the get-go, I could drink everyone I knew under the table. Using alcohol and drugs was what we did in my family. This was the legacy into which I was born and raised. It’s how we coped with life. And God knows there were a lot of ups and downs to be reckoned with. Awakening to even the idea that there might be another way and that getting obliterated or dying weren’t the only solution — and perhaps there was a different path — happened over time.
Shame is believing there is something innately wrong with us. Sometimes we don’t even recognize that how we are showing up in life is because we are full of shame. Until one day, shame makes and keeps us sick. Or we find ourselves stuck doing the same things over and over again, heading down a familiar path of self-destruction, or re-creating the same old dynamic in a relationship where we end up thinking we have to change things about ourselves in order to be loved. …
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